Grief on losing a son!

Hey, there!! I just started getting back here on a blog so I can write down all my weird thoughts, recollections and maze of family ties. I will work on a profile but it might be a few days.

This post is dedicated to all the mothers who have lost sons. the photo above was taken on the day my aunt lost her 3rd son.

This photo was taken on the day that a friend of mine lost her son......
I have many more that remind me of what my mother wrote in my little album when I was a child......"may there be just enough clouds in your life to make a beautiful sunset".

The above photo is from the day my son, David passed on - as you can see, the plant is almost entirely dead but there was one Angel Trumpet flower that bloomed that day!


I have read most all of the 'pap' and 'sap' of grief consolation on losing someone to other-worldly life and find noooooo consolation in it!!
When a grandparent or parent dies, we feel a tremendous sense of loss and deep pain in our heart because we were a part of them. But........when a child of ours dies, a big chunk of our heart dies also, because they were a part of us!! That piece of heart will never return and nothing can bring it back. If we are lucky, there are grandchildren who carry a piece of 'their' heart with them - sometimes, that is our only comfort.
Believing in God, in angels and what-not eases the pain for some and I do not disrespect that but belief in universal mind and transference of DNA may cause some to accept the loss in a different way.
My heart is truly sad for all those I know who have lost a son - Aunt Louise, my mother-in-law, Kandy, Jana, myself, and now my dear friend Karen! I know there is no true consolation for you - only the belief that a soul is at rest and blessed and know that we are all family and your grief is ours!